When do you know?
Many people ask, "When do you know you're in love?" or "When do you know he's the right one?," but I ask "When do you know you're going to make out?" Now this is a little personal, but it's an interesting subject.So Lindsay and I were talking the other day about boys, as always, and we mentioned some recent situations where we ended up make out with some people we weren't expecting to do anything physical with. Oddly enough, I was talking about this with the guy a few days later. Even though no signs had been given all night, he knew what was going to happen after we'd been standing outside my door for more than five minutes talking. In my naive mind, this was just a time to catch up because we hadn't seen each other in a while, and we're friends. I didn't know it was going to happen until it was. But somehow he knew. What is it that he saw that I didn't?
In Lindsay's case, her guy knew the day he met her at soccer. Was it because he wanted to hook up with her, so he knew he would make it so? Do only guys get those kinds of thoughts? Or do girls walk into a bar and immediately know they can get whichever guy they want?
Lindsay says she knew as soon as he put his hand on her thigh. Not too low, not too high. And then he kept it there. So there is something definite about touch. I imagine that this is the single greatest guarantee that something physical will happen between two people (as long as the girl is at least slightly interested, of course. I find that touch is extremely powerful, and most of us are deprived of enough touch to really meet our needs. Because of this inherent desire to be physically close to someone, when we are touched, that pleasureful feeling may just make hooking up inevitable.
So my basic thoughts are:
Guys know much sooner than girls that the couple will eventually make out
Touch (and I should say welcomed touch) is almost a sure-fire way to ensure that something physical happens. ;-)
posted by Biff @ 9:34 PM
2 Comments:
I am not sure he knew. But since the guy is the initiator (I thought you were assertive?)in most of these cases, he might not have "known" but thought "I think shes hot, she tingles my spine". And also she seems to be interested. I need to go for it. You could think of the thigh touch as a guy feeling the waters to discern if it is time for action.This is a very big ordeal for a man, or at least most of us mere mortal men. Our hearts are pounding, blood is racing; courtship is primal.
As far as the door goes, not wanting the night to end is a pretty big sign. I think Will Smith did a good job in Hitch about these moments, specifically the door.
I definitely agree. You have a good point about testing the waters. I think girls do it to show interest and flirt, and guys do too, but also to test the girl's reaction. And I didn't even think about Hitch when I was standing outside my door, but you're SOOOOO right! Good point!
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